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The state of Illinois recently mandated that a Social Emotional component be added to the curriculum. Our district adopted a program called Second Step to comply. Here’s some of what Second Step covers in just fifth grade: empathy and respect, listening with attention, taking others perspectives, accepting differences, disagreeing respectfully, and responding with compassion.
These are all wonderful things that we as adults value in our society. Bullying is covered in every component. That’s great, because we all know how harmful bullying can be. It is manipulative and can cause lasting damage. As adults, we can see what children often can’t. We teach them to stand up for truth and not just follow blindly out of ignorance or sit by silently out of fear. I’m pretty sure that all adults in our community value these traits.
Or do they?
Meanwhile, as I’m incorporating Second Step into our 5th grade schedule, our school district, therefore our city, is going through an ugly contract negotiation. There are many different intense opinions, and I certainly do not hold the key to what’s best, so that’s not what I want to address here. What I do want to address is some of the adult behavior.
Is this why we teach respect for point of view, empathy, and anti-bullying in elementary school? So our grade school students don’t grow up to act like some of us? If these were our students or children, we as teachers or parents would all call them in from outside and give them a time out, take away the x-box or recess, and have them write a letter of apology…maybe even send them to the principal’s office. In the adult world we seem to allow different rules. We typically refrain from calling bullies out on their behavior, and if someone dares to, that person is publically bullied into submission while other adults stand around and silently allow it. Isn’t this when we, the adults, "do as we say" and stand up for exactly what we believe and teach our children?
How can we expect our children to learn the values of true cooperation and disagreeing respectfully when we aren’t displaying them ourselves? Can we really expect our children to navigate successfully as adults in an ever-smaller world where true cooperation, valuing of differences, and respect for fellow human beings are desperately needed for global stability … if we as adults and role models can’t even do that in one city conflict?
Hey State of Illinois, can you mandate Second Step for adults?
RR
3:17 pm on Saturday, November 3, 2012
Donna,
You belong to a group of one of the biggest bullies I know. It's called the union. Maybe you should send this letter to some of your union leaders...
Megan Smith
4:20 pm on Saturday, November 3, 2012
Really, Donna? You are saying that the town of Geneva is being a bully? The town of Geneva is respectfully stating they are in an economic crisis and want to compromise. Remember what that means? It means working together. I am sure your fifth graders could teach you about that. Maybe a lesson in economics would be a nice addition to your curriculum.
Rick Anderson
9:51 pm on Sunday, November 4, 2012
Thank goodness there are only a few teachers within Geneva that should heed you own advice Ms. Roman.
Arthur Dietrich
4:23 pm on Saturday, November 3, 2012
The term bully is becoming very tired because it's overly used. It's losing all it's meaning and impact. It seems anyone who voices a contrary opinion to a group of like-minded people immediately becomes a bully.
Arthur Dietrich
4:25 pm on Saturday, November 3, 2012
One more point: the school district is not the city and vice versa. I think your logic is faulty.
Megan Smith
4:30 pm on Saturday, November 3, 2012
Arthur, the tax payers of the City of Geneva is what I was inferring, sorry if you are confused with my post, you are not being a bully are you?
Arthur Dietrich
4:41 pm on Saturday, November 3, 2012
Megan, I wasn't confused by your statement. I was taking issue with the blog writer's statement. And no I'm not a bully. I'm the wimp who usually gets bullied. LOL
Kathy
5:03 pm on Saturday, November 3, 2012
I would like Donna to provide a definition for bully, and to explain how pubilc discourse that includes disagreement is bullying. I haven't seen a lot of bullying here, on either side!
James Cullen
7:02 pm on Saturday, November 3, 2012
The next time you see a girl or boy with a backpack waiting for a Geneva school bus, imagine that child hunched over with a heavy U.S. Army-style duffel bag on her/his back, and the words “$2.3 million Union Greenshirt Pension” printed in bright green on the bag. Kids used to wear Chicago Bulls jerseys with the number “23” printed on them. Geneva school children today “carry a duffel bag” with “$ 2.3 Million Union Greenshirt Pension” “printed” on it.
When a typical “full-career” (i.e., 33 partial years, equivalent to 25 twelve-month years) Union Greenshirt retires, which for the last 6 years in Geneva has been at age 59, their average initial pension amount has been $ 83,866 per year. This increases by a compounded 3% per year by Illinois law. During the remaining 21 years of life expectancy, the retiree receives $ 2.3 million in pension, primarily paid by the Illinois income taxpayers. Those taxpayers in a few years will include today’s children.
That $ 2.3 Million Union Greenshirt pension is ripped out of the future hopes and dreams of Geneva’s children. This child fiscal abuse is the civil rights issue of our time.
It is a form of bullying.
Bob McQuillan
7:23 pm on Saturday, November 3, 2012
"We teach them to stand up for truth and not just follow blindly out of ignorance or sit by silently out of fear. I’m pretty sure that all adults in our community value these traits."
I believe this is what the vast majority of taxpayers (adults) are doing right now; standing up for the truth and not just following blindly out of ignorance or sitting by silently out of fear. As I have said before, knowledge is power and an educated taxpayer is a policiticans' and, in this case, a union's worst nightmare. The GEA has flourished because the taxpayers (their employers) didn't really take the time to understand what has been happening. Lucrative salary increases, cadillac medical insurance, sick days that roll over and salary spikes at the end of carreer. The community is doing exactly what you teach your 5th graders to do - stand up for their rights, look the bully right in the eye and say we are not going to blindly sit by anymore.
The GEA was awoken a sleeping giant and now all of the sudden the taxpayer is the bully. The taxpayer isn't the bully, the taxpayer is finally fighting back. Hopefully the sleeping giant won't be caught napping again. I think we have learned our lesson. I think our 5th graders would be proud of us.
Thomas
7:43 pm on Saturday, November 3, 2012
Hey Bob,
Can you explain to me how having "unused sick days" roll over costs the district money. It is my understanding that an unused sick day is a day that the district "did not" have to pay a sub. By allowing teachers to accumalate 172 sick days that they can use as a year of credit toward qualifying for their TRS retirement that means the teacher can retire a year earlier than they would if they were not allowed to roll over and that means one less year the district would have to pay that teachers their big 6 figure salary. Thanks in advance for your explanation
Bob McQuillan
8:07 pm on Saturday, November 3, 2012
Thomas
I have two issues with rolling over "sick days"
1. If you can roll over sick days, then they aren't sick days. They are days given to a teacher so that they can retire early. In the real world, sick days are sick days, you use them or lose them.
2. Who do you think pays for the teacher's retirement? The teachers contribute 9.4% of their yearly salary toward their retirement but that doesn't cover the guaranteed pay out over a teacher's lifetime. Right now the TRS is looking for Illinois to pay $3.4 billlion in unfunded payments. Who do you think pays the state's share? And when the state makes the local district responsible for retirement payments we will be paying for a teacher to retire early and also for a teacher to replace them.
Hope that answers your question.
Thomas
8:15 pm on Saturday, November 3, 2012
Bob,
Until they do away with teacher retirement, which I am guessing is on your bucket list, collecting retirement will happen whether a teacher rolls over sick days or not. I guess then you prefer teachers work an extra year on the districts dime before they retire and become, at least for now, the states responsibility.
Bob McQuillan
11:58 pm on Saturday, November 3, 2012
Thomas
The sad thing is that the teachers retirement fund as structured today is not sustainable. The idea of a fixed distribution is a joke, it ain't gonna happen. I would rather see the teachers go to a 401K plan like most other American workers. The teacher should be responsible for managing their own account.
I told you why sick days should not roll over. Can you explain why they should roll over and be "cashed in" to retire early?
Thomas
6:23 am on Sunday, November 4, 2012
Bob,
I can't explain why they should be "cashed in" like you say because the teacher doesn't receive any "cash" for those sick days. This is not like those "6 percent salary" spikes to encourage teachers to retire early which, in that case, the teacher "is" receiving more cash than they would otherwise. If anything retiring a year early because you are using a year of sick day credit means the teacher will receive "less" money since in that 1st year of retirement they won't be receiving 100% of their salary from the district. But again, it appears you would much rather see that teacher work that 35th year at full salary courtesy of the Geneva taxpayer in order to qualify for their full benefits from the Teacher Retirement System than work 34 years and give the district a break. Sometimes you have to pay or your principles I guess.
Julie
11:14 am on Sunday, November 4, 2012
Thomas, you're missing the point. Most people, including myself, get sick days on a per-year basis. I happen to get 7. If I don't use them, then I lose them. I try to look at it as a safety in case I, or one of my kids, are too sick to go to work/school. It's a perk that I am thankful to have and will appreciate the pay not being lost if I use them.
Bob McQuillan
12:11 pm on Sunday, November 4, 2012
Thomas
They certainly do receive cash for the unused sick days - they go on pension early and get pension payments early. That is cash coming from somewhere, either the state or in the future from the local districts. So while the teachers are being rewarded and retiring early, we are paying for a new teacher when the retiree should have still been in the classroom. So, I'll ask the questions again: Why should sick days be rolled over so that someone can retire early?
Thomas
1:39 pm on Sunday, November 4, 2012
Come on Bob,
You and I both know you are smarter than this. Maybe you don't want to admit it because that might confuse those who follow you. I don't know, at least I thought you could figure it out. Either way you can win. The teachers should stay in the classroom for as many years as they possibly can because once they retire and start collecting those retirement checks, based on your argument, it will cost the district more than what they were paying them in salary. Even if what they are collecting in retirement is, at most, 75% of what they were making when they were working for the district. 75% > 100% ? The math doesn't really work for me but whatever.
Bob McQuillan
7:31 pm on Sunday, November 4, 2012
Thomas
I have been polite and answered every question that you have asked. Yet you can't answer just one of mine. I'll ask it one more time. Why should sick days rollover so that teacher can retire early. Keep in mind that there is "value" or a cost to those sick days. Easy question, just please answer it.
Thomas
7:56 pm on Sunday, November 4, 2012
Like I said Bob you win. I can't argue with infallibilty,
Bob McQuillan
8:15 pm on Sunday, November 4, 2012
Really, you support the GEA position and can't defend why sick days should rollover. Wonder if the GEA leadership takes your position? Maybe the BOE should ask them.
Cody
8:21 pm on Sunday, November 4, 2012
Bob, I will answer it for him. If you tell the teachers to use them or lose them, then they will use them. Each time they use them it will cost the district about $90 per day for a sub. So now we are paying twice. If they accumulate them and retire early, I see that as a benefit because we can replace the teacher with a new one at less money. The way I see it, we are money ahead to let them accumulate the days. This is not like most jobs where if the person is not there, the position for the day is not filled.
Thomas
8:29 pm on Sunday, November 4, 2012
Yes Really Bob. I did defend it but is not my problem that you can't understand it. You should empathize. Now I know how "you" feel when you try to explain the bleak economic prospects for the district and people look at you slack jawed. Feel free to respond to my response since I know how important it is for you to have the last word. Have a great evening.
Dave Larson
4:22 pm on Tuesday, November 6, 2012
Bob – I happen to work in the “real world” and our employees get bonus pay for unused sick time. Sick pay varies widely from company to company, both in the numbers of days and the rules about how the time can be used. And yes, some allow rollover. Don’t pretend to be the one authority on the “real world”. You clearly are not!
David
7:51 pm on Saturday, November 3, 2012
Great post Bob. The teachers don't know what a pay cut or cut in hours is all about. The rest of us in our community are struggling to get through this recession. We not only have had to cope with a reduction in income but we have been forced to tolerate ridiculous real estate tax increases on our homes because of the teachers union demands. Instead of striking why don't you teachers quit and find employment where you will be more appreciated and we can hire some teachers who want to teach. You shouldn't be too difficult to replace.
Debbie Hanson
2:10 am on Sunday, November 4, 2012
Well said Donna, thank you. Folks, I don't see anything in this article that takes a side. There is only discussion about behavior...and if you note, she is not calling out any partucular group. At times I feel our town has lost touch with its humanity.
Linda Reid
4:56 am on Sunday, November 4, 2012
I agree Debbie. After I saw the comments I went back and reread Donna's post. I still don't understand what part of empathy and respect, listening with attention, taking others perspectives, accepting others differences, disagreeing respectfully, and responding with compassion has people so upset.
Clearly there is a lot of anger in the community right now. I get it. I'm not happy with what's been going on. But isn't this when we need to step back for a moment and take a deep breath? How we speak can have a negative affect on what we want to accomplish here. What is the downside of toning down the language and treating those we disagree with respectfully?
R G
8:08 am on Sunday, November 4, 2012
This whole thing of having compassion for others, have empathy, accept differences,blah blah. That is how this country has become the immoral place it is. Gay pride, no morality, everyone gets a trophy. Anything goes for everyone. Yes, we should be kind, and have respect for others. But agreeing with whatever others say, just so you don't hurt their feelings is wrong. There is right and wrong, truth and lies, winners and losers. You cannot have your feet in both camps, you will split your pants.
Silence Dogood
9:08 am on Sunday, November 4, 2012
"What is the downside of toning down the language and treating those we disagree with respectfully?" Why, Donna, there is none. It is indeed a laudable and commendable idea. And so, to Geneva teachers: We respect the fact that you are unhappy with your self-perceived value. And we politely request that IF you find the situation that (some claim) your Union has 'bullied" you into to be untenable, and that your TRUE concerns are the students, that you stand up to what some might label the 'bullies' in your union and publicly disavow them. Failing this, since you are obviously aware that there is no current economic crisis, and there is obviously a wealth of open teaching positions in Illinois, that are of course providing salaries and benefits packages comparable to or bettering what you have been offered here in Geneva, we sincerely and respectfully will thank you for your service to our students to date. Our students will miss you, and they and we will wish you nothing but success and happiness in the greener ( and non-tenured) pastures you will have chosen to move onto. Fare Thee Well, Please and Thank You.
Kathy
9:26 am on Sunday, November 4, 2012
I am just tired of everyone being labeled a "bully" just for disagreeing with someone! This label is being thrown around in our schools enough, let's not assign this label so freely, it is losing meaning.
Julie
10:31 am on Sunday, November 4, 2012
"We teach them to stand up for truth and not just follow blindly out of ignorance or sit by silently out of fear. I’m pretty sure that all adults in our community value these traits." Really? So, if it is true that many of the teachers are losing patience quickly w/the GEA, where are their voices? I am the first one to stand up and stick up for someone who I feel is being treated badly and I also have ALWAYS told my children that more than anything else, their greatest gift is the ability to treat others well. I also tell them having a backbone is equally important and they shouldn't let anyone walk all over them. How can you write this knowing that you have been to at least some of the meetings where the teachers stand at the podium crying about the money they make or how much work they do as if they are better than any other working person who is not a teacher. That, Donna, is what we are all sick to death of. When you're standing in the picket line chanting about fairness, remember what you wrote and what you're really teaching the children. Also try to remember that there are millions of people who can't find a job even when they spend 15 hours a day looking for one. Remember people who have lost everything because they lost their job and they would give anything to have the benefits you currently do. I know I am thankful each and everyday that my husband and I get to go to work.
Bob McQuillan
8:46 pm on Sunday, November 4, 2012
The GEA's request for a 3 year 6% salary spike has hit a nerve with me. No one seems to be able to defend the need for this benefit. The GEA thinks it is a way of saying "thank you for your service." Isn't that what steps are for? How does the 6% spike benefit the students, district or taxpayers? I don't have an answer for that question. I do have an answer to how it benefits the teacher.
Some assumptions:
1. Two 60 year old teachers, from different districts, are planning to retire in 4 years and currently each makes $100,000 per year.
2. Teacher A receives a 6%, 6%, 6% & 2.65% increase in the next 4 years. Teacher B receives a 2.65% salary increase over the next 4 years.
3. In year 4 Teacher A is paid $122,257.79 while Teacher B is paid $111,028.90. Teacher A receives $32,507.79 more over the 4 year period than Teacher B.
4. Average salary for last 4 years is Teacher A $114,929.85 and for Teacher B $106,802.90. Both Teachers retire at 75% of their last 4 year average salary. Teacher A gets $86,197.39 and Teacher B gets $80,102.18 in the 1st year.
5. TRS benefits are increased 3% yearly for the teacher's lifetime.
6. After being retired for 20 years (age 81), Teachers A has received a total of $2.316,156.15 while Teacher B received $2,152,375.57. Difference of $163,780.58 over 20 years or an average of $8,189.03.
I thought the GEA was looking to attract the best & brightest new teachers to Geneva. How does spiking do that? See attacked pdf file
Thomas
9:03 pm on Sunday, November 4, 2012
Slight problem with your equation Bob, under the most recent contract after step 22 (year 22) teachers no longer receive "step increases" (2.65%) they receive 1.5% "longevity increases" Just the facts Bob!
Bob McQuillan
9:13 pm on Sunday, November 4, 2012
Sorry Thomas but if you get 4 year notice to retire you receive the average increase given to all teachers. So, since 2.65% is the step increase, the teacher would receive at least 2.65% their last year. Actually they would probably get more.
Strange that you ignored the $163k in additional payments and focused on a 1.11% difference. Sorry your 1.11% doesn't measure up to the contract. You are quick to comment for someone who isn't a teacher, administrator or spouse of either.
Thomas
9:16 pm on Sunday, November 4, 2012
Bob,
Your not the only one who has Craig Collins on speed dial
Bob McQuillan
10:23 pm on Sunday, November 4, 2012
So you are saying that your 1.5% longevity increase for those that announce their retirement doesn't happen. Or are you avoiding the question that you bought up? And how about those sick days, still no answer on the benefit of rolling then over.
You might speak with Craig Collins on a regular basis, I don't.
Thomas
10:44 pm on Sunday, November 4, 2012
Again Bob. I explained the benefit several times, but you either fail to understand the explanation or refuse to accept it. I should have included "omnipotent" along with "infallible". I found your response to Cody interesting regarding step and lane..."If step & lane remains in the new agreement, it will be the last agreement that it is in".... You must know something the rest of us don't, or do you have Mr. Grosso's number on your speed dial along with Craig Collins? Only the Shadow and Bob McQuillan knows. :)
Julie
6:12 am on Monday, November 5, 2012
For cripes sakes! Give it up, Bob. You've explained it so many times that even now I think I could write a paper on it! Thomas is bull-headed and he's just toying with you...OR...he really doesn't understand it. Some people who just cannot own up to seeing it for what it is make these silly statement. Oh, and while I don't know Bob well at all, I do know that any principal and board member probably pay the phone company extra to block any calls from him. No offense to you, Bob. Both of you should drop it because you're never going to come to terms. Include Cody, too...or Btown. Multiple offers my foot. If that were the case, then why don't they leave 304 to go to these other super duper districts that are so much better than where they are now? I mean...if it's that easy and they only have one year of experience now...those other districts will surely still scoop them up.
Bob McQuillan
9:03 pm on Sunday, November 4, 2012
Now lets look at the GEA's claim that their average salaries are one of the lowest in the area. They claimed that Batavia & St. Charles paid higher average salaries. When it was pointed out that St. Charles was actually lower, the claim changed to lower starting salaries. Those numbers were from the 2010-2011 school year.
Lets see what a difference a year makes.
According to the NIU School Report recently released, the average salary for Geneva teachers was the 3rd highest of the 8 Kane County districts. Only Batavia & West Aurora have higher average salaries. Please see the attached pdf file.
Why the difference? Because Geneva compared salaries to district's that were not in the same contract years. Usually the salary increase late is a contract is higher than the earlier years. The 2011-2012 are the last year of the Geneva contract thus their average salary increases were larger than some other district's It was to the benefit of the GEA to use the 2010-2012 salaries when comparing against other districts. The 2011-2012 average salary of $75,078 stacks up nicely against other local districts. The teacher/pupil ratio are also very favorable to Geneva.
Bob McQuillan
9:05 pm on Sunday, November 4, 2012
*should be
It was to the benefit of the GEA to use the 2010-2011 salaries when comparing against other districts.
Rick Anderson
9:42 pm on Sunday, November 4, 2012
We can all agree that sick day benefits, as they were originally intended to be, have become abused and maligned over the decades. Either the union asked for it and got it, or it was some hair brained administrative idea to offer it instead of something else. Good luck trying to get back to what they were meant to be.
Cody
9:43 pm on Sunday, November 4, 2012
Bob,
I think everybody will agree the spike is unnecessary. I have a feeling it is still there as a bargaining tool. The real issue is the fact that the BOE is trying to do away with step and lane. If they step and lane was gone in all districts, then fine get rid of it. The fact remains that if the district gets rid of it, it will hurt us down the road to hire the quality teachers that we do now. I will state it again that most of the new new hires that are truly very qualified, will get multiple offers. Why would they come to Geneva knowing they will not move up like they would in other districts? The reality is, teachers go into teaching because they enjoy it. But they also have to make a living like the rest of us.
Gerry
9:52 pm on Sunday, November 4, 2012
"I will state it again that most of the new new hires that are truly very qualified, will get multiple offers."
Absolutely, 100% false. Right now an Ed major with high honors from a prestigious University would be very unlikely to break into 304.
Bob McQuillan
10:25 pm on Sunday, November 4, 2012
Cody
Step & Lane will be replaced with some type of merit salary increase. The best and the brightest would choose a district with merit increases over one that gives everyone the same increase.
If step & lane remains in the new agreement, it will be the last agreement that it is in.
Cody
8:12 am on Monday, November 5, 2012
Okay Bob, say they do replace it. Then how does the district decide where a new hire with several years experience and different levels of education start? Do you think they will all start at the same level, square one? If that is the case, Geneva will only hire a new teacher with no experience and no additional education. If they use some sort of chart to decide where to put them, then isn't that the same as step and lane? The step and lane precess make sense, but I agree that we don't need to keep increasing each square by a percentage each year. Once again I will point out that you and others can't seem to think what our schools will be like in the future by trashing the system. I am all for fiscal responsibility, but we need to figure out how to do it and still maintain the current level of excellent teachers we have now. I don't believe our current board or administration has figured that out yet. If we don't, it might take 4 or5 years before the truly good teachers are gone and new ones not applying. We may have to spend a little now to get it right down the road.
Bob McQuillan
11:14 am on Monday, November 5, 2012
Cody
You don't leave a ridiculous "bargaining tool" in your final offer that the public will see. If it were a bargaining tool, the GEA should have deleted it from their final offer. Why allow the taxpayers to grab onto something that is so ridiculous?
Bob McQuillan
11:16 am on Monday, November 5, 2012
When step & lane is eliminated to will allow the BOE to hire the brightest and the best at a higher salary and those teachers will realize that merit increases will continue. If you were a top teacher would you want to work were every gets the same raises or at a district that recognizes your individual efforts?
Cody
11:54 am on Monday, November 5, 2012
Once again Bob you are showing that you can't think realistically. Do you really think that a teacher with an advance degree or years of experience will come to Geneva knowing that they will not be paid for it and they get an offer from a district that does? Yes they teach because they like it, but at the end of the day they have to make a living as well. So I guess it is ultimately about the money, which is the same thing you are fighting for in just a different sense.
Cody
10:09 pm on Sunday, November 4, 2012
Think what you want Gerry but I know for a fact of three new hires to Geneva this year had multiple offers. I also know of several teachers coming out of U of I that also had multiple offers from districts they applied to.
Silence Dogood
12:06 pm on Monday, November 5, 2012
The 3 most important words in real estate: location, location, location.
The 3 most important words in teaching: tenure, tenure, tenure.
Cody
2:10 pm on Monday, November 5, 2012
And 3 most important words to make it in the world: money, noney, money
Silence Dogood
10:39 am on Wednesday, November 7, 2012
Cody: How amusing that you were so excited to get that post up there that you just couldn't pause to proof it. At least I'm hoping for your sake that the middle one is a typo. (You might want to look up noney on Urban Dictionary) Well, to each their own.
Rachel
5:51 pm on Monday, November 5, 2012
Mrs Roman, thank you for sharing your wonderful blog post with the public, it certainly is too true and appropriate to not be shared.
And for the people's comments portraying her as a "bully" because she is a teacher, you are dead wrong. Her message has nothing to do with who's right or who's wrong, it has to do with being good role models to our children. Maybe you should ask your student what they learned in Second Steps recently, you could learn a thing or two from them.
Julie
6:26 pm on Monday, November 5, 2012
Rachel, how beautiful! I already know what my kid learned in her class. How to keep a really neat desk. I think they spent an hour a week cleaning them. She also learned how much work went into a masters degree. That was talked about a lot in that class....probably why the desks were being cleaned so frequently, IMO. If this whole fiasco wasn't going on, I'm willing to bet that this blog would have never been written.
Dave Larson
4:03 pm on Tuesday, November 6, 2012
Yes Julie, and if this fiasco wasn't going on, you would be off bullying someone else.
Julie
4:37 pm on Tuesday, November 6, 2012
@Dave. Again, sticks and stones. I am no bully...I'm just tired of the bully sh%!. If you confuse a bully w/someone who actually speaks their mind, calls out those who speak untruths and sticks up for others, then I guess I'm guilty, but I'm pretty sure that isn't the correct definition.
Melissa Pazen
6:48 am on Friday, November 9, 2012
Donna, thanks for bringing up the point "what we say we want in our kids vs. what we show our kids". Thank you also for telling us about Second Step.
One of the reasons you & I work with children, I think, is because IF we can help them get it right from the start, we may not need to take the corrective action subsequently.
Honest conflict will always occur in our world. Wherever two or more are gathered... there WILL be a difference of opinions. I grew up supporting unions and my husband works at a major global manufacturer in which the union eventually became so powerful that they almost caused the corporation to go belly up.
I can't solve all the ills of society; neither can you. If each of us works tirelessly for our cause, perhaps we can get a little bit closer.
Beth
9:36 am on Tuesday, November 13, 2012
Excellent article, Donna! I support you 100%!